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Did infertility show up at your wedding? An uninvited guest squeezing her way onto the dance floor, she may have crept in unnoticed. She wasn’t invited but she’s determined to undermine the hard work and time invested in your union. Through disappointment and distraction, she’ll work to destroy one or both of you.
Many couples don’t make it. They crumble under the weight of this unexpected pressure. When your love life’s a public hot topic, it’s easy to feel like a failure. Constant questions and insensitive comments create stress and leave scars. On display and without the goods, your union can feel like a mistake. Will your marriage survive?
Who wants to be that couple? The universal message? Fertility is sexy, attractive…a sign of prosperity. So how do you keep it hot and heavy when your quiver isn’t full? Sex feels unproductive and well…unsexy. Timing, temperatures…tantrums. It’s hot in your bedroom…but for all the wrong reasons. Once passionate dialogue eventually turns cold and it becomes easier not to talk.
How can you keep your marriage alive? How can you stay friends? Is it possible for a marriage to thrive when faced with infertility? Will your marriage survive?
Here’s the hope ::
Communication. Loving confrontation and laughter. The couples who successfully pass the test communicate. They stay on the same team. They’ve learned to speak each others language and communicate in the millions of little ways that keep love alive. The successful couples let friends in, but know when to keep them out. They face trials together. They do the hard thing and stay focused. They still look each other in the eye. When it matters, rather than let things slide, they call each other out. They laugh. They create a culture of love that includes making each other smile. Daily. They forgive. Daily. The couples that survive remain hopeful and make decisions together. They cry. They believe God. They come out stronger. United. Beautifully bound. Inextricably woven. No matter the outcome – these couples win!
Infertility Prayer – Day #8
Lord our marriage is on the line. Because of your love, we know we can face any trial with integrity and come out triumphant. We acknowledge you as the final authority over our relationship and surrender our desires and emotions. We have each other. We have you. Help us take care of each other in service and honor to our union. Bless our communication. Give us reasons to laugh and remain hopeful. Our marriage is a gift. We thank you for it. Amen.
a little word on love ::
“Though One May Be Overpowered, Two Can Defend Themselves. A Cord Of Three Strands Is Not Quickly Broken.” – Ecclesiastes 4:12
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